And That's Why You Have NO Friends

So have you ever wondered how rude, demanding, selfish people enter your life?  They are everywhere it seems!  I am going to tell you how to rid yourself of them and how to stop engaging their behavior.  

Boundaries- is a good place to begin.  The minute they make a rude remark to you or ridiculous request of you, disengage any and all interest you have in them.  I'm not saying that true friends can't sometimes hurt you, they do.  But you know the difference.  Instead always have a coined thought out reply for these type of people.  In reality they are grown-up bullies, and if you engage them, you are allowing their hurtful ways to rob you of happy times spent without them. 

Great Replies are ones that nip ill-mannered individuals in the bud.  They leave the person without a response or another ridiculous request.  So take the highroad and have a well thought out list of replies.  

For example here are some reply's for rude remarks:  

1.  Man, where has the time gone.  I gotta jet.  I just remembered I have to be somewhere.  

2.  Is it me or did you mean for that to be a hurtful remark.  

3.  What do you mean by that?

4.  I'm not quite sure I understand...

5.  So what you are saying is.....(and repeat it back in a demeaning way so that they know you understood them loud and clear.  Make sure they get that you aren't a dumbass they can just mouth off too because of their moody whims)

So as they are clammering with something to say refer back to my previous post on "If Looks Could Kill"  That is a great one to end the conversation with.  And then as you are leaving the premises remind yourself why they have no friends.  And then remind yourself of the fact that true friends are few and far between.

And for the second situation; here are some replies for ridiculous requests or just plain simple requests you don't want to appease someone of:

1.  Sorry, I have personal plans I am already committed to.  (The placement of "personal" into your reply gives the requester a queue not to ask why. Thus leaving you free of an interrogation)

2.  I don't feel right about doing that.  (This is for unethical requests and usually they won't ask why because they already know why) 

3.  Are you for real? (and then follow it with my advice on "If Looks Could Kill" post)

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You can use the same reply every time if you like.  That will be a queue to the requester as well. Always remember your replies can be short and polite. They don't have to be something you aren't comfortable with.  Choosing your words wisely means you are the one in control of the situation.  This allows you to be true to yourself and not get taken advantage of.  Remember, it is your life and you are in charge of the choices you make and the situations you engage in.