Passive Aggression!

Passive aggressive behavior is a cowards way of taking a jab at your heart. Instead of coming out with their feelings they behave passive aggressively to feel in control. They control through undermined behaviors thereby manipulating or taking over a situation.  For example being argumentative, acting like a victim, being pouty,

closed minded, acting innocent, or playing dumb; these are all great examples of a passive aggressive person who in reality is a coward to his own feeling, thoughts, and wishes. 

Passive Aggressive can also be trivial jabs in conversation that take place to make the aggressor seem dominant. Instead of thinking of a way to overcome his feelings of insecurity or lack of confidence he resorts to negative put-downs.  This can occur within a simple fluctuation of tone or mannerism and go as far as outright insults given in a joking manner.  Regardless, it is not acceptable behavior and should not be tolerated.  

So how do you deal with someone like this?  If you confront them like a mature grown up, they will act innocent or dumb. So the best way to stop the behavior is to make sure you are communicating everything very clearly and being open.  

The second way is to not react or engage their behavior.  If they act innocent, get very basic with them. If this makes them defensive, ask them why they are acting that way.  This will bring the conversation down to the brass tax of what's bothering them.  If they still won't deal with the situation, ignore their passive drama and just wait for them to express themselves appropriately.  If you have done your part in communicating clearing while acting loving and kind, you have nothing to worry about.  Their issues are not for you to spend your valuable time on.  

As long as you are minding your manners and staying true to yourself. Live on my friend and be well!